Pulling Up a Second Seat

All things aside, when it comes to the relationship business…it’s your company that matters.

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Monday has arrived and I am ready to get down to business! If you are open to the next step in seeking out the love you so richly deserve, then let’s talk about relationship goals!


The last time we met at this round table, we were on the subject of the company we will choose to keep in this fight. During my reveal of some of my battle buddies in my last post, I hope you were able to recognize my position at the table. I have pulled up a second seat to sup and drink of my cup with my gate-keeper and king, and I extended an invitation to you. With him at the head of the table, I place the guest list in his hands for a closer look. If you have taken your position, then you’re first in line before anyone else. He’s checking you out and your line up.

“Bad company corrupts good character” 1 Corinthians 15:33

So back to the goal…what are we aiming for again? An affair to remember or a love to be recorded in the history books of all time. Consider this…every great love story begins with good characters…¬†There is a Japanese proverb that says if the character of a man is not clear to you, look at his friends. If we are going to fight the good fight for love for our own selves, we need to be able to be in company with those that are making better choices than we have been used to.

What are we using to measure up

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“You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with” Jim Rohn

In love and life, I want relationships that are above average… especially the relationship with myself. I say a bucket full of hope adds up to a lot be grateful for but in weighted matters of the heart we can’t just hope for the best. The best battle buddies will be those that you are grateful for because they are there, tried and true, at all times… even when the odds are not in your favor. Good quality friends with true character will always be above average when measured on the scale.

“Associate yourself with people of good quality, for it is better to be alone than in bad company.” Booker T. Washington

We have already established that it is not recommended for you to battle this one out on your own, so it is best to use discernment and choose wisely. I know I did. I look forward to seeing you again on the other side of the gate!

My First Time

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If you could go back to the beginning and re-create the first time… what would it be like?

A little too close to the edge? This may not be what you expected, but this is where we start. What if? The question alone makes the mind wander, the heart ponder and the memory fonder. The possibility of conception rather than rejection makes you turn in a different direction. The “what if” is a proposition to love.

What am I proposing? I am proposing that love, our notion of it and exactly how we feel toward it, greatly depends on the certain outcome. In other words… it has to do with our expectation. What we expect to find… is often what we end up seeing in the end. Unfortunately, we often can only see what is already in existence… the past, the put away, the leftovers.

Are you looking forward to leftovers tonight? Look, left overs are nothing to scoff at… they can actually be pretty good in my book. They are the remains of what you once craved. They were great the first time around and good enough that you want to have the opportunity to reheat and repeat.¬† However, leftovers don’t last forever. In fact, indulging in leftovers beyond three to four days puts you at risk of food poisoning which means, they can’t linger, you have to eventually toss them.

That being said, if we are lingering on the past… “the leftovers” of what we experienced love to be the first time around… the result could be toxic. Toxic love is no bueno… that’s a no brainer, but some of us have no idea that we’re feeding on leftover love because we are creatures of comfortable habit, drawn to the familiar rather than the unknown.

So… since we have to start afresh, let’s go back to the beginning. I asked you to tell me what it would be like if you could re-create the first time. Would you want it to be exactly the same? Be honest! My honest answer is… (drumroll please)… there is no earthly way!! If it were up to me, the love I would have experienced would have been a little more heavenly.

A new kind of love… the kind that can move heaven and earth is what I want. And if I am hoping to help us find it, I have to start with the one that has the power to create it.

“In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth…” Genesis 1:1

Every good recipe needs to come from somewhere. The recipe of love is no exception.

Morning fruit on the table… thanks for joining me!